ADMISSION: I am new to the adult dating scene. Last time I was single I was 18 years old and times have changed, but so have I. After a four year relationship, I took a year off to find myself again (cheesy but true).  Post-Uni, the eligible bachelor pool is light on water (hardee har har), especially since I’ve been hitting up the usual suspects:

• Friends of friends: I’ve met most of them
• Bar/Club Scene: Typically douchey drunk boys, widespread age ranges (19 or 35 really), purely physical (“You’re really hot”`) and difficult to talk (“Whaaaat?”). While I know many people who married the boy from the club (my mom included!), it hasn’t worked for me yet.

My point is that you have to start getting creative and finding opportunities to meet new people, in a setting where you feel more comfortable and like yourself, in order to get different results.  Like joining a sports league, or volunteering for a cause.  Shake it up! For me, chemistry ranks very high on the list, so meeting in-person is pretty important.

That being said, I went to my first singles event a couple of weeks ago, after overcoming my own prejudice (desperado anyone?) and fear of going alone (did I mention I have zero single girl friends?). There is a company called Meet Market Adventures and they host at least 3 events a week in several North American Cities, all of which are fun and interesting (i.e. ziplining, hand gliding, salsa dancing etc).  I decided the night before, that I would go to a Toronto Island Event on the July Long Weekend, because the weather was nice, I hadn’t been to the island in ages, and really, I didn’t have anything better to do.

A late-comer caught my attention and it had more to do with the twinkle in his eye and his general energy/presence than anything else. We were inseparable the entire day, had tons of opportunity to talk and get to know each other, while also getting playful and active – a much better first date experience than the average movie and dessert.  To find out how that turned out, stay tuned.

I think that whether you attend a singles event, join an online dating site, or a new activity, there is an element of serendipity involved. After all, with hundreds of options available, what are the odds that you and Mr/Mrs. Right were both attracted to the same event/site and committed to signing up at the exact same time?

So tell me, how did you find Mr./Mrs. Right? Or what new things did you try on your quest?